Self-doubt is a nasty booger. It might be your constant companion or just an occasional visitor, but either way, you don’t have time for it.
Self-doubt is a kind of trap. We often don’t even realize we’re caught in its snares until we’re in pretty deep. It starts innocently enough, with a feeling of being “put out” or “bummed out.” Then before you know it, self-doubt is infecting everything you say and every interaction you have.
If you’ve been dealt a blow or you’re struggling with self-esteem, I’ve got news for you: You are not supposed to stay down.
You are an awesome person with valuable skills and talents! You deserve to feel good about yourself.
That’s how you’ll find the opportunities you want. You never know what your opportunities will look like, but you definitely won’t see them clearly if you can’t even see yourself clearly.
So, if you’re sentences are falling off at the end, or if you’re making jokes about how terrible you are or how you’ve failed… Here are 3 things you can do to transform your self-doubt into self-confidence.
1. Set a physical goal and achieve it.
Exercise is a fabulous confidence booster. No matter your level of fitness, there is a goal you can set for yourself and achieve.
Of course, if you’re brand new to exercise, don’t set an unrealistic goal. If you’ve never run more than a quarter-mile, don’t sign up for a marathon. Instead, download an app like Strava and promise yourself that you will be able to run a mile without stopping in a month (for example).
Apps are great for accountability and community. They give you positive reinforcement every time you work toward your goal.
Maybe running isn’t your thing. It’s certainly not for everybody–and no fitness regime is. Maybe you always wished you could the splits as a kid, or a headstand, or maybe you just want to be able to touch your toes! You can do it if you really want to work for it!
It will feel so good when you reach your goal, no matter how big or how small. There’s nothing quite like a physical goal for boosting self-confidence, because you achieve it through your connection with your body.
Your body is your vehicle for living. Knowing and working with your body will teach you a lot about who you are and what you’re meant to do.
2. Create Something
Don’t you dare say, “But I’m not creative…” because that’s just not true. We are all creative by nature. There’s something you can make that will make you feel more confident in yourself.
Your creation doesn’t have to sell. It doesn’t have to get hundreds or thousands of likes on social media. It just has to be genuinely yours.
Cook a meal. Write a poem. Make a scrapbook. Come up with a new game. Build a website or program. Edit photos. Design a t-shirt. Plant some herbs. Plan a trip. Heck, devise a budget! The possibilities for creation are endless!
What is something you would like to have in your life? Make it.
3. Thank yourself
Rather than wasting time criticizing yourself for what you aren’t, spend some time being grateful for what you are.
Thank yourself for making your bed in the morning. (Lord knows not everyone can.)
Thank yourself for driving safely to work.
Thank yourself for being good to the people you love.
Thank yourself for your each of your individual strengths.
Thank yourself for not having to be perfect.
Please don’t feel like you have to do this standing naked in front of a mirror. Just, throughout the day, think thoughts of gratitude for yourself. Everything you take for granted, someone else wishes they could do. Even the things you do because you’re “supposed to,” thank yourself for them.
You’ll be amazed by how quickly you will create good habits and traits just from this little trick.
Go on, give it a try! Pick one or do all three. Everyone deserves to live their lives with self-confidence. You can only be you, after all. Might as well feel good about it!